A 10 year old friend of mine has nailed down the simplest way to grow as a person. I am fascinated by how simple this is – and how hard.
Mark made some errors on the soccer field last week, got put on the bench and got a “talking to” by the coach. Mark felt really bad and hurt – he made mistakes, which made him feel bad, and his coach told him in no uncertain terms that he had screwed up.
Mark and his mom had a challenging conversation about this. Here is Mark’s wicked wisdom:
1. If I do something right, I want to hear about it. I want to know what I am doing right.
2. If I do something wrong, I want to hear about it. I want to learn how to play the game better.
3. It is really hard to hear that I am doing something wrong but I want to hear it anyway.
4. At times, coaches are not so good at delivering a message. I have to look past that because I want to hear what s/he has to say.